Control the time waiting to get an connection

Using the SpyConnectionFactory to get to JMS queues.
This is done because of various firewall issues.
We have a list of ports that we try to connect to. When a firewall is in between the client and the JBoss server the timeout is extremely long.
Following small example show how the connection is made:

Properties properties = new Properties();
properties.setProperty(UILServerILFactory.SERVER_IL_FACTORY_KEY,
UILServerILFactory.SERVER_IL_FACTORY);
properties.setProperty(UILServerILFactory.CLIENT_IL_SERVICE_KEY,
UILServerILFactory.CLIENT_IL_SERVICE);
properties.setProperty(UILServerILFactory.UIL_ADDRESS_KEY, thisIp); properties.setProperty(UILServerILFactory.UIL_PORT_KEY, thisPort);
QueueConnectionFactory conFactory = new SpyConnectionFactory(properties);

_myQConnection = conFactory.createQueueConnection();
_testSession = _myQConnection.createQueueSession(false, Session.AUTO_ACKNOWLEDGE);

We whant to control the time it will wait for the "createQueueConnection" call.

We want to control the time client are waiting to get a connection.

We have try to set
-Dorg.jboss.mq.il.uil2.retryCount=1
form the client, but it still to long waiting,