Server testsuite fixes

while running the server testsuite on various os configurations, several test issues were found:

• suppress-state-transfer tests on windows were failing because jenkins+windows+cygwin is slow, we're doing something like: "kill node -> verify that views are updated" and during the verification the update is still pending, fixed with sleeps after the kill
• hotrod protocol version bump
• running the testsuite with specific zip distribution on windows
• xsite config example test fix for ibm java